Expert Q & A Answers About erotic fantasies

Is his porn addiction destroying our marriage?

I’m trying to understood my husband’s need for pornography. I never reject his advances and I often initiate sex, and sometimes we watch porn together to enhance our sex life. But, although he tries to hide it, he appears to "need" to watch porn and masturbate on his own, and he always needs to fantasize about others joining us in order to climax during our sexual encounters. I want him to want me alone and to love me during our encounters. Why is he incapable of joining love and sex and understanding my need for it? I know he loves me and we’ve been together for more than 15 years.