Expert Q & A Answers About disability sexuality

I’m a quad woman and I’ve only been able to have an orgasm from manual stimulation. Am I missing something?

I’m a woman and – due to muscular dystrophy – I’m a quadriplegic who uses a ventilator. I’ve also had a hysterectomy. Both of these changes came before I started sexual activity…so I can’t compare “before” and “after.” I’ve only ever had an orgasm from manual stimulation instead of intercourse. That’s great, but am I missing something?

Is it okay to ask my partner to do things my attendant would usually do?

If I'm totally frank about what works for me, sexually, it involves asking my partner to do things for me that are normally performed by an attendant. Isn’t that too imposing, too much to expect?