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I’m a woman and I want to decrease my high libido for the sake of my low libido husband. Any suggestions?

My spouse works a lot and is usually too tired for sex. I, on the other hand, could go for it anywhere, anytime, all the time. So what can I do to decrease my sex drive so he doesn't have to feel like I always want to jump his bones? I want him to be happy and I am tired of being frustrated. Your help and advice are appreciated, thanks for your time.

My wife and I are swingers...but lately she seems very interested in one other person. How do I talk to her about?

My wife and I have been involved in the "swinger" scene for some time now. It's been a wonderful way to express our sexuality as a couple over the years. However, I've sensed she has had more than a fleeting attraction to one of the other husbands we've been playing with in the last month. I'm somewhat surprised because we've always been so open with one another, but I don't know how to even bring this up. How can I address this with her without her feeling like I don't trust her? I don't want us to have to change our lifestyle.

I was sexually abused as an I’m sexually unresponsive to my new partner. Can you help?

I am an adult survivor of extreme domestic violence growing up, during which I was sexually abused as an adolescent. I recently met a wonderful man...but I admit that I’m always looking for something to be wrong with him. He told me he loved me and bought me gifts for Valentine’s Day, but I’m not sexually responsive to him. I don't know if I feel safer with unavailable men, or if I just am not attracted to him in spite of his gestures. Please help.

My partner is emotionally abusive and I can’t seem to orgasm...what’s going on?

I’m in my 40s and I’ve had a weight problem almost all my life. When I was growing up, my father made negative comments about my body and called me a whore. Now, my partner makes negative comments, too…and since my total hysterectomy, I can’t seem to have an orgasm any more. What do I need to do to have an orgasm?

Are couples with one disabled partner more likely to get divorced?

Are there any studies on divorce rates among couples in which one person has a disability? What's the main reason for divorce? Does sexual dysfunction play a role? Do people with more severe disabilities have more marital problems? How about people who were married before they became disabled?

I think my partner is addicted to sex...and it’s hurting our relationship. What can we do?

I'm a female involved in a relationship with another female. My partner has an extremely high sex drive ⎼ to the point where she has to have sex every day or she gets depressed and becomes passive-aggressive. I’d like a little more time between lovemaking. She says she needs a fix. We’ve talked a lot about it, but haven’t been able to resolve this issue. Do we need sex therapy?

We’ve been married 33 years and sex is no longer satisfying. Why?

I have been married for 33 years. For the past several years, I have had problems keeping an erection with my wife. For a long time, she’s made up excuses not to join me in sex. I’ve slept on the couch, been depressed and been on medication. I cheated and told her about it. Now we’re trying to work it out and we’re seeing a therapist, but I can’t seem to get excited by her. I love her and feel depressed over the whole thing. What’s the problem?

My boyfriend’s lack of interest in sex is ruining our relationship. What can we do?

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and generally have a good relationship. But for the last year, he’s not interested in sex. I didn’t know this happened to men and I feel discouraged and annoyed. We’re both in our early twenties. We used to be very sexually active but it seems as though sex is the last thing on his mind these days. I know he’s stressed, but sometimes he won’t even touch me for fear of turning me on. What do you suggest?

I haven’t had an orgasm in 20 years. What can I do?

I’m 45 and I haven’t been able to have an orgasm for more than 20 years…either by masturbation or intercourse. I was able to have them as a teenager and young woman, but they stopped after I had a serious anxiety disorder and left my husband. I do go to a therapist, but not specifically for this. I’m single and this interferes in my relationships with men because they seem to think it’s a reflection on them…which only causes me more anxiety. What should I do?

Is his porn addiction destroying our marriage?

I’m trying to understood my husband’s need for pornography. I never reject his advances and I often initiate sex, and sometimes we watch porn together to enhance our sex life. But, although he tries to hide it, he appears to "need" to watch porn and masturbate on his own, and he always needs to fantasize about others joining us in order to climax during our sexual encounters. I want him to want me alone and to love me during our encounters. Why is he incapable of joining love and sex and understanding my need for it? I know he loves me and we’ve been together for more than 15 years.