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How can I help my partner get excited about sex despite her high blood pressure meds?

My partner is on high blood pressure medications and now she has no sexual desire whatsoever. She’ll satisfy my needs, but it’s all one-sided. I want to enjoy sex WITH her. Do you have any advice to counteract these side effects?

My wife’s fibromyalgia means we never have sex. What can we do to solve this problem?

Sex has become close to non-existent due to my wife's chronic pain associated with fibromyalgia. What suggestions do you have for us?

My husband’s ankylosing spondylitis sometimes makes orgasms extremely painful for him. What can we do to enjoy sex?

My husband is 43, and he has ankylosing spondylitis. While our sex life is good, sometimes his orgasms cause him severe pain in his groin area, which can make him ill (diarrhea, vomiting, back pain, etc.) for days. This makes it difficult for either one of us at times to enjoy sex because he/we never know what the end result will be. As long as he stays active, the pain stays minimal but the sex is always a surprise as to whether or not it's painful. I want to help him so we can really enjoy sex, not be punished because of it. Can you help?

My boyfriend is on blood pressure medication and can’t get it up. How do I talk to him about it?

I am a 56-year-old post-menopausal woman with a healthy interest in sex. I have begun a serious relationship with a 66-year-old man, who is on medication for blood pressure and SSRI medication. He knows that the blood pressure med affects his sex life, but he acts as if there’s no problem. He hates the idea of Viagra and doesn’t want to talk about it. I love him and we talk about spending our lives together...but I want to be able to have sex. How can I get through to him?

My husband has cerebral palsy...will we be able to have a baby?

I'm a 24-year-old woman who’s married to a 23-year-old male wheelchair user who has cerebral palsy. Is there any reason why he wouldn’t be able to impregnate me? He has complete sexual function and we have a normal sex life.

Is lack of genital sensation common for people with cerebral palsy?

I’m 34, and I’ve had cerebral palsy since birth. Recently, my interest in sex has piqued and I have had several encounters in recent months ⎼ some of them being intercourse and some not. My question refers to my seeming lack of sensation in my genitals. Is this common with CP?

How can I enjoy sexual activity with my motor-nerve disease?

I have a motor-nerve disease. It causes spasticity in my legs and hands, and it makes sex too labor intensive to enjoy. Do you know of anything that might help?

What do I need to know before dating someone with cerebral palsy?

I am an able-bodied gay man interested in dating a man with mild cerebral palsy (he uses canes to walk). But I’m a little nervous about becoming involved with him. I'm afraid of him becoming dependent on me and of me losing my freedom. I suppose I’m also concerned about handling the social stigmas attached to dating someone who has a visible difference in the way he moves and talks. Intellectually I know it is what's inside someone that counts (I’m attracted to him and he has a great sense of humor)...but I still have some prejudices. What are some ways for me to handle my own prejudices as well as social stigmas so that I can just date him like anybody else without a disability? And if we become sexually involved, what types of issues would I need to be aware of beforehand?

I have spina bifida and epilepsy. My medications are known to lower libido. Is there a test to find out if mine is lowered?

I’m a man who was born with spinabifida, and I developed temporal lobe epilepsy at the age of 10. I’m in my late 30s now, and I don’t have a lot of interest in I’m reluctant to start relationships. I have been taking medication for epilepsy for the last 15 years, but I just found out that it can contribute to a low libido. How would I know if I have a low libido? Is there a way to test it? Just know this for sure would increase my confidence in relating to the opposite sex.