Sex can be the most fulfilling and enjoyable part of your life, yet it is not uncommon for couples to struggle to connect sexually. Inhibitions, body image issues, and performance anxiety can all hamper a good time in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are a few easy things you can do to help ensure that you have a happy, fulfilling sex life.
Consider the top five tips:
Self-stimulate. When you self-stimulate, you improve blood flow to the genitals and you increase your sexual desire. And, the more you fantasize and touch yourself, the more uninhibited and free you will become in the bedroom. Self-stimulation is of particular importance for women, because if you don’t know how to give yourself pleasure, how can he?
Ask for what you want. Sounds simple, but so many people expect their partners to be mind readers. Don’t just assume that your partner knows the right way to pleasure you. Everyone has different needs and desires, so don’t be afraid to speak up and let your partner know what you need.
Use protection. We all know to use condoms during intercourse, but did you know you should also use them during oral sex? Many STDs can spread with the exchange of fluids during oral sex, so it is important to always use a condom or dental dam when performing on your partner. (These are available at most drugstores and simple to use).
Get moving. It can be hard to feel sexy on the inside if you don’t like the way you look on the outside. The good news is that you can increase your confidence and reclaim your inner sex god or goddess in no time. Do so by staying active and working out regularly (physical health and sexual health go hand-in-hand, not to mention exercise improves circulation and ups your body image). Find an exercise you enjoy so that you know you will stick it, or join a gym with a buddy who will keep you in check.
Get tested. You can’t enjoy yourself in the bedroom if you are worried about STDs- be it your own status or if you are in the dark about your partner’s. Visit www.SexualHealth.com to learn how to get tested, and ask your partner to do the same. Remember, the best sex is safer sex!