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Can birth control pills make orgasms more difficult to achieve?

I'm 16 and I’ve been on birth control for a long time. I recently started taking a certain brand, and all of a sudden my ability to orgasm went away...but I had been able to masturbate to orgasm before with no problems. So I decided to switch pills again to see if that would fix the problem...but nothing’s changed, even though I’ve been on it for almost a whole pack. Are birth control pills ruining my orgasms? Will I ever get my orgasms back?

Will masturbating now hurt me in the future?

I’m a young woman and I’ve been masturbating for two years...but I’m afraid that it’s bad for me. Will masturbating damage me sexually in the future?

I can orgasm from masturbation but not from intercourse. What’s going on?

I’m a woman and I can’t orgasm during intercourse, although I can achieve orgasm by masturbation. My partner and I love each other a lot, but our lives have been really stressful lately. I have a low sex drive and I’m feeling depressed about unemployment. How can I enjoy sex with my partner again?

Why can I only orgasm with anal sex? Are vaginal orgasms possible?

My boyfriend and I have started exploring anal sex...and it seems that I can only climax through anal sex. Any ideas why this might be? I don't know if this has anything to do with it, but in my previous relationship my partner was performing oral on me and bit my clitoris. It seemed to decrease feeling for a while...could that be the reason?

I no longer find masturbation pleasurable...why?

I’m a 20-year-old woman and, for the past few years, I haven’t been able to become sexually aroused. When I was younger, I’d get turned on easily and enjoyed masturbation. Now when I try to masturbate, I don’t feel anything…and I’ve never had an orgasm. What do you suggest?

How do I get back to my old sexual self after having a baby?

I’m 41 and – after delivering a large baby (10 lbs., 12 oz.) – I’ve lost most of my muscle tone and sexual pleasure. My self-esteem and sexual confidence have also taken a hit. How do I restore my body and my self-esteem so that I can enjoy sex again?

Is it okay to have an orgasm while pregnant?

I’m 20-years-old and five months into my first pregnancy. Lately, I’ve have been experiencing some abdominal pain after having a heavy orgasm. Is it unsafe for my baby if I have an orgasm during sex or masturbation at any time during pregnancy?

I’m pregnant. Is oral sex safe?

I’ve heard that oral sex can be dangerous during pregnancy. Is that true?

How can I have sex with a pregnant belly?

Now that my belly is getting bigger, my partner and I are having a hard time figuring how to have sex comfortably during pregnancy. Do you have any ideas?

What can cause variations in menstrual cycles?

I am a 37-year-old female and my menstrual cycles are usually 28-29 days. But for the last three months, they’ve been about 30-31 days long. Most recently, my last cycle was only 23 days. I haven't had sexual intercourse lately, but I did take a couple of home pregnancy tests just to be sure, and they were all negative. What can be causing my menstrual cycles to be longer and then really short?