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How do I tell my partner that sex with him is painful...without damaging his ego?

I’ve had sex before and it’s never hurt until I had sex with my new boyfriend. I think his method needs some work. So how can I tell him he needs to do some things differently without hurting his feelings? I tried to talk to him once and he told me it was my fault.

How can I convince my boyfriend to use a condom?

My boyfriend doesn’t like to use a condom when we have sex because he says condoms reduce his sensation. I know we should use a condom to prevent pregnancy and STDs, so how can I talk to him about it?

I have a strong sex drive, but my older partner couldn’t care less about sex. What are our options?

My partner and I are a gay couple and we have a problem in the bedroom. He’s 43 and not a very sexual person, while I’m 22 with a strong sex drive. He acts like sex is a chore. In fact, when I don’t come onto him, we don’t have sex. I don’t want to always throw myself at him...but I also don’t want to cheat or break up with him. So what can I do to get him to like sex the way I do?

How can I help my partner get excited about sex despite her high blood pressure meds?

My partner is on high blood pressure medications and now she has no sexual desire whatsoever. She’ll satisfy my needs, but it’s all one-sided. I want to enjoy sex WITH her. Do you have any advice to counteract these side effects?