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Is it possible to get STDs in a monogamous relationship?

I had unprotected sex before I met my current partner. I’m the first and the only partner of the person I’m with now. I recently went to a clinic to get myself tested and I have no STDs. If my partner and I just stick with each other (for sexual pleasure), can we still get an STD through unprotected intercourse or through unprotected oral sex?

My boyfriend is a quad. When I give him head, we leave his indwelling catheter in...is that safe?

I’m a healthy 46-year-old woman. My boyfriend is a 47-year-old quad. After being together a year, we’ve found many ways to be sexually intimate with each other...even though he can't have sexual intercourse. One of the things he enjoys is my giving him head. He has an indwelling catheter, which we usually leave in. Can I contract any infections from doing this? I'm concerned because he has frequent bladder infections.

Can I pass genital herpes to a partner when I don’t have an outbreak?

Once someone is diagnosed with genital herpes, does he always have to wear a condom during sex...even when there are no visible herpes signs?

Why do condoms give me erectile dysfunction?

I can’t hold an erection with a condom on. What do you suggest?

How good is the Pill at preventing pregnancy?

My girlfriend is on the Pill and we use condoms...but the last time we had sex, the condom came off. It was 13 days before she expects her period. Is it possible for her to get pregnant because the condom slipped off? Should we get the “morning after” pill?

What kinds of STDs and other infections can a man get from having unprotected anal sex with a woman?

What kinds of STDs and other infections can a man get from having unprotected anal sex with a woman? Recently, while having unprotected anal sex, the base of my penis became pink and irritated. The mild irritation has persisted and jock itch cream isn’t working.

Could this bump on my penis be an STD...even if I tested negative?

I’m really worried that I have genital warts. I have a fleshy, raised portion of skin next to my urethra. I haven’t been sexually active for almost three years since I had a one-night stand when I didn’t use a condom. The symptom showed up about a week after sex. It doesn’t itch. I got tested for all STDs recently and all the tests were negative...including the test for HIV. My doctor also said that the bump looks normal and the STD clinic said it looks like scar tissue. What’s your opinion?

How effective is the withdrawal method?

My boyfriend and I have been having sex without a condom most of the time we have sex. We used a condom twice, but for the other 13 times, he just pulls out before he cums. It has been a couple weeks after my last period...so is there a chance that I could be pregnant? How would I know?

Why does my partner get a burning feeling when I ejaculate inside her?

My girlfriend gets a burning feeling when I ejaculate inside her. When I don’t ejaculate, it doesn’t burn. Is this normal? Also, sometimes after intercourse I get hot-spots on and around my penis. Is this common? I’ve been tested for STDs and she’s been tested for yeast infection, but everything came back negative.