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My partner’s spinal chord injury makes me feel self-conscious...what are some ways we can bring equal pleasure into the bedroom?

I'm very attracted to a man with a spinal cord injury, but when we've tried to be intimate, I find that I'm very self-conscious because the focus is more on my pleasure than his. I'm used to there being an obvious sign of a man's arousal (erection) and I feel awkward being the only one who appears to be aroused.

My husband has a spinal chord injury and now won’t even touch me. What can we do to fix our marriage?

My husband sustained a spinal cord injury just a year after we married. Since then, he’s not interested in sex, and never touches me. In fact, even when I hug him, he pushes me away as soon as he can. I have begged him to go to marriage counseling with me to get help but he refuses. His refusal to even try to work on our problems has made me resentful and I have stopped trying. I live in one part of the house and he lives in the other and we don’t spend time together at all without fighting. Part of me thinks "leave and get a life," and part of me still loves him and feels sorry for him, and wants our marriage to work. I just don’t know what to do anymore.