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I’m a quadriplegic...is anal sex safe?

I am a man who is disabled (C4-5 quadriplegic) and gay. I have questions and concerns about anal sex without having sensation. Is it safe?

I got a blow job from a prostitute...what STD tests should I get to be safe?

I’m in an unhappy monogamous relationship, so seven days ago I had unprotected oral sex (a blow job) and protected intercourse with a woman I don’t know. When I asked her why she wasn’t using a condom for the oral sex she said that she didn’t have herpes and didn’t think I did either. What STD tests should I consider taking? I feel horrible and scared.

Is it dangerous for me to swallow another man’s ejaculate after giving him a blow job?

I’m a 25-year-old man and ⎼ for the last month ⎼ I’ve been sneaking away with a male co-worker so I can perform oral sex on him. He says it gives him relief because he gets turned on by all the provocatively dressed women we work with. Last week, I confided in a female co-worker and she said we should stop. She said that if I give a guy a blow job and swallow, eventually the protein from his sperm will mix with mine and cause an infection in my balls. Is that true?

I think I have herpes...will I ever be able to have sex again?

I am a male who has never had sex with a female, and about a year ago I had sexual activity with another male. Come to find out, I got genital herpes from it. I have never been tested or taken medication, but I’m pretty sure I’ve had about three herpes outbreaks. I am straight and all of my friends think that there is something wrong with me because I have not had sex yet (with a woman). But now I don’t want to take the risk of having sex with a woman and spreading the disease, especially because everyone knows I’m a virgin. Could I say I got herpes from oral sex? I have no clue what to do!

Can I get herpes from giving my girlfriend oral sex?

After performing oral sex on my girlfriend, I break out with cold sores around my mouth. Am I at risk for herpes?

Is this a pimple or do I have herpes?

Can you get a pimple on your outer vaginal area? My boyfriend and I have been having unprotected sex for more than three years, but I get tested every year and I haven’t tested positive for anything so far. Recently, when he inserted his penis, I felt some discomfort...not inside, but when his penis hit the outside. Then I found this bump, very sore to the touch and looks like a pimple. Once I popped it, it didn’t hurt as much and it’s slowly going away. Should I be concerned about herpes?

What kinds of STDs and other infections can a man get from having unprotected anal sex with a woman?

What kinds of STDs and other infections can a man get from having unprotected anal sex with a woman? Recently, while having unprotected anal sex, the base of my penis became pink and irritated. The mild irritation has persisted and jock itch cream isn’t working.

How can I protect myself from catching genital herpes from my girlfriend?

I met a girl online who just found out she has herpes. I think she’s a very sweet person. Is it possible to lead a normal life with her? How do we have sex without spreading the disease? Will I get herpes from her if we take all the precautions? 

Can you get genital herpes from oral sex...with a prostitute?

I’m a 22-year-old male. I always had protected sex with only one girlfriend. Then, six months ago, I got drunk at a bachelor party and received oral sex from a prostitute. I’ve developed red bumps with white heads that come and go in the area around my penis. The most recent bump is larger, darker red and filled with pus (like a large pimple) and is now getting smaller and a little crusty around the edges. I also have similar bumps on the edges of my eyelids and around my mouth. I’m concerned...what do you think?

I have a yeast infection…how long do my boyfriend and I have to wait to have oral sex again?

I am 17 years old, and I’ve just been diagnosed with my first yeast infection. My boyfriend and I enjoy oral sex and I was wondering how long I should wait until we can have oral sex again? Until the itching is gone?