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Can I get AIDS in a hot tub?

Last week, I had sex with my new girlfriend…she said she’s a virgin and hasn’t been tested. We were in the bathtub and used a condom. After we had sex, I took the condom off and fingered her in the water. My penis was also under the water. If my girlfriend is HIV-positive, could I get HIV from being in the tub with her? Can HIV survive underwater? Also, do condoms provide the same level of safety underwater?

My girlfriend has HPV...is there a test for men to find out if I have it too?

Hi. My girlfriend just found out that she has HPV. I’m fairly certain I have it, too, because we’ve had unprotected sex. She’s on the pill, so we figured that would be okay. She’s slept with two other people besides me and used condoms. She’s my first and only partner...so I’m wondering how I can know for sure if I have HPV and if there are any treatments for it. Also, will I have the same type she has and will it cause warts?

How long after unprotected sex should I wait before getting an HIV test?

I had unprotected sex with a girl and I want to find out if I have HIV. How long do I have to wait before I get an HIV test?

Is it possible to get STDs in a monogamous relationship?

I had unprotected sex before I met my current partner. I’m the first and the only partner of the person I’m with now. I recently went to a clinic to get myself tested and I have no STDs. If my partner and I just stick with each other (for sexual pleasure), can we still get an STD through unprotected intercourse or through unprotected oral sex?

Do condoms still work in the shower? What about under water?

Is it safe to have sex in the shower using a condom? Could the heat from the water damage the condom, or are there any other problems?

Can anal sex cause a bowel movement in a person who is paraplegic?

My paraplegic girlfriend and I would like to try anal sex...but we aren't sure if it will cause a bowel accident, or if it’s safe.

My boyfriend is a quad. When I give him head, we leave his indwelling catheter in...is that safe?

I’m a healthy 46-year-old woman. My boyfriend is a 47-year-old quad. After being together a year, we’ve found many ways to be sexually intimate with each other...even though he can't have sexual intercourse. One of the things he enjoys is my giving him head. He has an indwelling catheter, which we usually leave in. Can I contract any infections from doing this? I'm concerned because he has frequent bladder infections.

I’m a C5 quad and my girlfriend wants me to stimulate her anus...is that safe?

I’m a male C5 quad, and I like to perform oral sex on my female partner. She enjoys it, but after prolonged stimulation of her clitoris, she says it gets numb and orgasm is harder to reach. She wants me to stimulate her anus to give her clitoris a rest. Is this harmful?

If I give my boyfriend oral sex when I have cold sores, could he catch genital herpes?

I’ve always gotten cold sores on my lips and I have some now. When I give my boyfriend oral sex, can he get herpes from my cold sores? Is it bad to give him oral sex when I have cold sores, or are oral and genital herpes two different kinds of herpes?

Can I pass genital herpes to a partner when I don’t have an outbreak?

Once someone is diagnosed with genital herpes, does he always have to wear a condom during sex...even when there are no visible herpes signs?