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I’m too scared to get tested for HIV...what should I do?

I am a 22-year-old college student and have been with 14 partners. Three of them did not wear condoms. I had an STD a while ago, but nothing since then. I also get yearly exams and haven’t had sex in over a year. But I’m worried that I might have AIDS. I feel almost crazy thinking about it…and I’m too scared to get tested. What should I do?

Can I get AIDS in a hot tub?

Last week, I had sex with my new girlfriend…she said she’s a virgin and hasn’t been tested. We were in the bathtub and used a condom. After we had sex, I took the condom off and fingered her in the water. My penis was also under the water. If my girlfriend is HIV-positive, could I get HIV from being in the tub with her? Can HIV survive underwater? Also, do condoms provide the same level of safety underwater?

How long after unprotected sex should I wait before getting an HIV test?

I had unprotected sex with a girl and I want to find out if I have HIV. How long do I have to wait before I get an HIV test?

Is it possible to get STDs in a monogamous relationship?

I had unprotected sex before I met my current partner. I’m the first and the only partner of the person I’m with now. I recently went to a clinic to get myself tested and I have no STDs. If my partner and I just stick with each other (for sexual pleasure), can we still get an STD through unprotected intercourse or through unprotected oral sex?

I have HSV-1 and HSV-2...my partner has herpes, too. How can I safely give her oral sex?

I’m a man with HSV-1 and HSV-2, and I am beginning relationships with women who also have HSV. Are there any devices for giving oral sex to women? I know condoms protect in the reverse scenario.

Is it normal for me to have heavy vaginal discharge when I’m with my attractive friend?

I'm an 18-year-old girl and I find that I have heavier vaginal discharge every time I'm around my friend. We do kiss, but I seem to get excited just being around her. We could just be sitting there doing nothing, and I feel like I’m excreting vaginal fluid. I'm really embarrassed because I've never been in a relationship before. Is this normal? Or do I some kind of disorder or disease?

Are there any negative side effects of anal sex in men?

I'm a homosexual man and I've been in a very successful relationship for two years. I sometimes ejaculate inside my partner during anal sex. I would like to know if that’s okay, or if there are any negative side effects? We’re in great health and live a healthy lifestyle.

Is it okay to have sex during menstruation?

I had sex with my boyfriend on the second day of my period, and we used a condom. I've heard that it's bad for the girl’s body to have sex during menstruation, because her period will stop after engaging in intercourse. Is this true?

Is it normal to bleed after sex...the first time?

I bled excessively after having sexual intercourse for the first time...is this normal?

How can I convince my boyfriend to use a condom?

My boyfriend doesn’t like to use a condom when we have sex because he says condoms reduce his sensation. I know we should use a condom to prevent pregnancy and STDs, so how can I talk to him about it?