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What can we do to avoid painful sex for my wife as we get older?

My wife and I are both healthy 47-year-olds who have been married for more than 20 years. Basically my wife dislikes deep penetration because she feels like it "bumps her internal organs." Is there any way we can get both deep penetration for me and comfort for her? Is there such a thing as a vagina that is "too short"?

Sometimes I get a very painful abdominal cramp during sex. What is it?

I’m a 23-year-old female and sometimes I get a painful cramp in my stomach during or after intercourse. It hurts so much I have to just sit down for 15-30 minutes. It doesn’t happen every time I have sex but it’s been going on for about a year...and only with my current partner. Any ideas what this could be?

We want to have sex for the first time, but it hurts! What’s the problem?

My boyfriend and I are both virgins...but we tried to have sex for the first time a couple nights ago. When he started to enter me, I felt a sharp pain. He could put the full length of his fingers in me comfortably, but his penis caused me pain. So we ended up not doing anything. Do you have any advice?

How do I tell my partner that sex with him is painful...without damaging his ego?

I’ve had sex before and it’s never hurt until I had sex with my new boyfriend. I think his method needs some work. So how can I tell him he needs to do some things differently without hurting his feelings? I tried to talk to him once and he told me it was my fault.