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Can I have sex after a hysterectomy?

Is intercourse possible after a hysterectomy? Or will it cause damage?

I no longer find masturbation pleasurable...why?

I’m a 20-year-old woman and, for the past few years, I haven’t been able to become sexually aroused. When I was younger, I’d get turned on easily and enjoyed masturbation. Now when I try to masturbate, I don’t feel anything…and I’ve never had an orgasm. What do you suggest?

After my injury, I’m afraid of incontinence during oral sex...any suggestions?

I am a female C5-7 quad. Before my injury, my boyfriend frequently performed oral sex on me, which I enjoyed. Since my injury, we have not had oral sex because I am afraid of incontinence and am not sure how I will respond in terms of how it will feel, spasticity, leakage...you name it. Any suggestions?

Is it true that orgasms are healthy?

A friend told me that having orgasms are good for women’s sexual health. Is that true? If so, how often should I orgasm to be healthy?

I’ve never had an orgasm, and I’m insecure about my appearance...what can I do?

I’m a 16-year-old girl, and I just started having sex with my boyfriend. I’ve never had an orgasm...and it’s starting to concern me. I thought this could be because I’m not confident with my genital area. I used to shave my pubic region, and now I get ingrown hairs. When I pluck them, they become scars...it’s not a great appearance. What can I do to clear up this problem and start enjoying sex?

My partner is emotionally abusive and I can’t seem to orgasm...what’s going on?

I’m in my 40s and I’ve had a weight problem almost all my life. When I was growing up, my father made negative comments about my body and called me a whore. Now, my partner makes negative comments, too…and since my total hysterectomy, I can’t seem to have an orgasm any more. What do I need to do to have an orgasm?

Is physical trauma the end of good sex?

I’ve survived a spinal cord injury. Now I’d like to know if I can learn to orgasm again. I’m a woman and I have a C4 injury with about 80% sensory below the shoulders. I can "feel" a lot, but the big bang eludes me. I have learned from my physical therapy that my body is very responsive to learning. What is it that would help me "re-educate” my intimate body?