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Is it possible to get an STD from kissing someone?

I recently started dating after a divorce and it seems that each date ends with a kiss. Is it possible to get an STD from kissing someone? I always make sure she doesn’t have any visible cold sores, but I’m still concerned that I could get a more serious STD like HIV. I read that this is only possible if there is visible blood in her mouth (from something like flossing). Is there any STD that is transmitted via saliva?

I know I was exposed to the herpes virus. When should I get tested?

I was exposed to herpes, got tested and found out that I’m negative for the virus. Should I get tested again to be sure I am not infected? In the meantime, can I still have sexual contact?

Can I pass genital herpes to a partner when I don’t have an outbreak?

Once someone is diagnosed with genital herpes, does he always have to wear a condom during sex...even when there are no visible herpes signs?

I have HSV-1 and HSV-2...my partner has herpes, too. How can I safely give her oral sex?

I’m a man with HSV-1 and HSV-2, and I am beginning relationships with women who also have HSV. Are there any devices for giving oral sex to women? I know condoms protect in the reverse scenario.

Can I pass oral herpes to other parts of my own body?

Is it possible to pass oral herpes to your penis if saliva was used as a lubricant during masturbation?

I had oral sex seven months ago and just noticed some bumps on my vagina...do I have herpes?

The last time I had sexual contact with anyone was about 7 months ago. I've never had sexual intercourse; however, I have performed oral sex and had it performed on me (without a dental dam). I have developed a mild itch and redness on my labia majora and I noticed one or two hard, painless bumps on my labia minora. Do I have herpes? 

Am I at risk for herpes after visiting a massage parlor and having a “happy ending”?

About two weeks ago, I went to a massage parlor where I got a massage that finished with a “happy ending” (hand job). The outside of my anus was slightly massaged with a finger and my mouth was on her breast. I also caressed between her legs outside her pants. Now I’m worried about STDs because I noticed a round, scaly dry sore on the inside of my bicep and I’ve been experiencing flu-like symptoms. Also, the tip of my penis is slightly red and the top of my testicles has a red blotch. I’ve already been tested for herpes and am awaiting the results. How at risk am I for herpes? 

Can you get genital herpes from oral sex...with a prostitute?

I’m a 22-year-old male. I always had protected sex with only one girlfriend. Then, six months ago, I got drunk at a bachelor party and received oral sex from a prostitute. I’ve developed red bumps with white heads that come and go in the area around my penis. The most recent bump is larger, darker red and filled with pus (like a large pimple) and is now getting smaller and a little crusty around the edges. I also have similar bumps on the edges of my eyelids and around my mouth. I’m concerned...what do you think?

I have two small red bumps above my upper lip. Could I have an STD?

Recently I noticed that I have two small red bumps above my upper lip. Could I have an STD...or are they something else? 

I intimately kissed a girl...a few days later I noticed a white sore under my tongue and then a red sore on my lip. Are these STD symptoms?

I intimately kissed a girl, and few days later I got a small white sore under my tongue and then on my lower inside lip. And now I have a small light red sore on my outside lip and it itches. Are these symptoms of an STD?