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I haven’t had an orgasm in 20 years. What can I do?

I’m 45 and I haven’t been able to have an orgasm for more than 20 years…either by masturbation or intercourse. I was able to have them as a teenager and young woman, but they stopped after I had a serious anxiety disorder and left my husband. I do go to a therapist, but not specifically for this. I’m single and this interferes in my relationships with men because they seem to think it’s a reflection on them…which only causes me more anxiety. What should I do?

I’ve never had an orgasm, and I’m insecure about my appearance...what can I do?

I’m a 16-year-old girl, and I just started having sex with my boyfriend. I’ve never had an orgasm...and it’s starting to concern me. I thought this could be because I’m not confident with my genital area. I used to shave my pubic region, and now I get ingrown hairs. When I pluck them, they become scars...it’s not a great appearance. What can I do to clear up this problem and start enjoying sex?

My partner is emotionally abusive and I can’t seem to orgasm...what’s going on?

I’m in my 40s and I’ve had a weight problem almost all my life. When I was growing up, my father made negative comments about my body and called me a whore. Now, my partner makes negative comments, too…and since my total hysterectomy, I can’t seem to have an orgasm any more. What do I need to do to have an orgasm?