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I have a spinal chord injury and I’m slow to ejaculate...is there a toy that could help?

I am an incomplete C5-6 quad. I’m 26, male and I’ve been injured for nine years. I have no problem getting or maintaining an erection (with little or no stimulation), but my ejaculations take too long. When I stimulate the base above the testes, I get quicker results, though…so I’m wondering if there’s a toy that stimulates just this area?

My son is marrying a woman paralyzed from the waist down...will they be able to have children?

My son is engaged to a 20-year-old young woman. She was in a car accident and in a coma for 60 days. She’s finally awake and is doing well mentally, but she’s paralyzed from the waist down. They are planning to get married as soon as she gets her strength and health back. She is a darling girl and we are so lucky to still have her with us, but I am wondering about her chances of having children and how her paralysis will affect their sexual relations? My son loves her very dearly and is willing to do whatever it takes to make her happy. I would appreciate it if you could help educate me on some of the things that they might face as a married couple. Thank you so much.

My husband has a spinal chord injury and now won’t even touch me. What can we do to fix our marriage?

My husband sustained a spinal cord injury just a year after we married. Since then, he’s not interested in sex, and never touches me. In fact, even when I hug him, he pushes me away as soon as he can. I have begged him to go to marriage counseling with me to get help but he refuses. His refusal to even try to work on our problems has made me resentful and I have stopped trying. I live in one part of the house and he lives in the other and we don’t spend time together at all without fighting. Part of me thinks "leave and get a life," and part of me still loves him and feels sorry for him, and wants our marriage to work. I just don’t know what to do anymore.

I’m a quadriplegic...is anal sex safe?

I am a man who is disabled (C4-5 quadriplegic) and gay. I have questions and concerns about anal sex without having sensation. Is it safe?

What kind of medication can help a paraplegic have sex?

My 34-year-old boyfriend has been a paraplegic due to spinal cord injury from the waist-down for seven years. He told me he’s able to perform sexually with the aid of medication. What type of medication could he be talking about?

After my injury, I’m afraid of incontinence during oral sex...any suggestions?

I am a female C5-7 quad. Before my injury, my boyfriend frequently performed oral sex on me, which I enjoyed. Since my injury, we have not had oral sex because I am afraid of incontinence and am not sure how I will respond in terms of how it will feel, spasticity, leakage...you name it. Any suggestions?

Is physical trauma the end of good sex?

I’ve survived a spinal cord injury. Now I’d like to know if I can learn to orgasm again. I’m a woman and I have a C4 injury with about 80% sensory below the shoulders. I can "feel" a lot, but the big bang eludes me. I have learned from my physical therapy that my body is very responsive to learning. What is it that would help me "re-educate” my intimate body?