You can also use a water-based lubricant such as Astroglide (found in any drug or multipurpose store) to add lubrication during various sexual acts. This type of lubricant is what many people who need more lubrication utilize. It can be applied in various ways, both before and during any sexual touching and can be part of the erotic sexual play of arousal. It can be utilized with any other form of disease prevention such as with latex or polyurethane condoms. It is often found to be fun for the partner as well, as it enhances pleasure in both people.

As far as experiencing "normal orgasm", that is a more difficult question to answer. Only the person "experiencing" can identify the level of pleasure being received during the sexual arousal. There are many people who experience orgasm but because it doesn't feel the way it has been described in other people they don't know if it is the "real" thing. I would say, that if what you are feeling is pleasurable, has a sort of peak feeling, followed by a decline of feeling that eventually seems to move your body into a feeling of relaxation, you might very well be having an orgasm.

There are many people who do not have an orgasm. Even men, who experience both ejaculation and orgasm separately (though they often occur together so they are often thought to be the same thing), struggle at times with having the orgasm (they may have the ejaculation but no orgasm). Men feel the ejaculation and don't always know if there is no ejaculation if they are having an orgasm. It may not be important if you are feeling pleasure. Sometimes there is more pleasure in the arousal and closeness, and working toward having an orgasm may make it a "goal" that takes away the pleasure.

There are certainly ways to increase the intensity of your response to see if you can produce an orgasm. One is through the use of vibrators. These do not need to be put in the vagina, like a dildo, though a dildo can be bought that has vibration in it. Often using a vibrator on the clitoris on the outside of the vagina can produce an orgasm so that you can feel what one from that external source might feel like. You can find erotic enhancers of varying kinds on many web sites such as www.goodvibes.com (an on line store called Good Vibrations)!

I hope this information has been helpful and if you have more questions you will write back and ask.

Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team