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I am a 21 year old male and while making out with my girlfriend I can not control myself and I cum. It is really hard to control, and is very embarassing. How can I stop this? We are not sexually active yet but when we do become active, how can I last longer. I am really interested in satisfying her needs before mine.
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Answer:
by Rajendra Sathe: ()
At your age, I would not worry excessively about this issue. As time goes by and you gain more ‘experience’, you may find that you would last longer. Whilst having sex, try to concentrate on the sensations in your penis and monitor when you are getting close to ejaculating. Then either slow down or stop the thrusting for little while and this should extend the time until you cum (ejaculate). Being able to recognize when they are getting ‘close’ is the secret of all men who can control their ejaculation nicely. At that time these men automatically change the rhythm of thrusting or the position they are in, thereby reducing the stimulation of the penis and extending the time to ejaculation.
In case early or premature ejaculation turns into a persistent problem, there are certain ways to deal with the situation. The best option is to seek the advice of a sex therapist, (visit http://www.aasect.org/). However, I really do not think that you are having a serious problem at this time and there is a good chance that you will overcome the ‘early cum’ as time goes by.
Doing the Kegel’s exercises I have described in an earlier question will also help you. It’s important however that you do them regularly.
Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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