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by Kathleen Scarbo (VanKirk): (10/07/2005)
This is a great opportunity for both of you to open a whole new chapter of your sexuality. Often, all your husband will need is a little permission to go out and find you a sex toy. It can be a real turn-on to shop for a lover, but many men just don't know where to start - admittedly, it can be a little intimidating. Or, it just doesn't occur to partners to buy such an intimate gift for their loved ones, unless prompted. There are several good ways you can let him know exactly what you want, however.
Dropping the hint that you'd like an erotically oriented gift can be easy. Perhaps one night, during sex, you can groan to him how you'd love to feel him penetrate you with a vibrating dildo, or how much fun it would be to watch an adult video together while using toys. You could even leave him a personal "Want List" of suggestions. If he still misses the clues, maybe you can crack a bottle of wine and fantasize along with him while surfing erotic web stores.
Make it a delicious task that you can both anticipate. Plan a night alone together to open and use just that specific gift. You may want to let him to do all the footwork and pick a toy that appeals particularly to him. After all, there are plenty of toys out there for men now, too.
Another fun suggestion (if he's up to experimenting with you), is for the two of you to have your own private "erotic" stockings filled with lots of goodies and trinkets. There are many gift options available to you in Libida's Gifts Under $15.
Nowadays, there is a plethora of toys to choose from. However, although your husband's interpretation of what you want may be right on the money, unless he knows exactly what makes you feel good he may be choosing mainly from his own needs. That is why it might be helpful to have a detailed discussion about what you liked about your previous vibrator, and what it left to be desired. Libida's Gift Decision Maker can help him narrow in on what you like. Of course, he could never go wrong with a Libida Gift Certificate.
The nice thing is that even if you don't end up with exactly what you want, Valentine's Day is right around the corner! Have a Merry Season!
Copyright 2005 Libida.com and Dr. Kathleen Van Kirk Reviewed by: Kathleen Scarbo (VanKirk) DHS
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