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by Kathleen Scarbo (VanKirk): (10/07/2005)
It sounds as though your initial assessment is the correct one. Female ejaculation does occur in 10-14% of all women, although the phenomenon is fairly misunderstood by both men and women, alike. The G-Spot is a small bundle of tissue and nerves about two inches into the vagina on the upper wall. Therefore, rear entry positions have a greater likelihood of allowing the head of the penis to come into contact with it. Although the existence of the G-Spot has been somewhat controversial in the past, the last decade has indeed shown it to exist, in some capacity or other, in most women - some may have the bundle of tissues but nothing happens with stimulation; some may orgasm with the stimulation of the spot but without fluid, and yet others may orgasm with ejaculate. The ejaculate it self can range from as little as one teaspoon to several tablespoons full. Research has shown that its consistency is neither urine, nor vaginal fluid, but something else not yet completely defined. You can find out more about the history of female ejaculation in The G-Spot Book, by Beverly Whipple and Alice Kahn Ladas.
I would venture to guess that most women don't even know whether they are G-Spot sensitive or not, as it sometimes takes specific and purposeful stimulation to arouse it. Often times, this is more easily achieved by using toys specifically designed for G-Spot exploration, like the Clearly G, the Pulsating G, or the Classic G. In your girlfriend's case, it seems as though she has come across her ability to female ejaculate by accident. This can be scary for those who don't understand what is going on with their bodies -- especially so, if she is concerned about what you, as her partner, might think.
Once a woman can embrace her ability to have a G-spot orgasm and/or female ejaculate, it usually becomes a very enjoyable and valuable sexual experience. Your girlfriend is lucky that you not only want to understand this component of her sexuality, but that you are turned on by it, as well.
I would therefore suggest that you find a good time to bring up the subject in a positive manner. Perhaps you can lovingly say something like, "You know, I was really turned on those couple of times you came with all that fluid, when I was entering you from behind. In fact, I wanted to learn more about it, so I found this information for us..." You may then want to present her with The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-Spot, or a video like The Incredible G-Spot Video or Unlocking the Secrets of G-Spot: The Ultimate O. You can even get involved with partner instruction from the Tantric Journey to Female Orgasm.
Any way you can assist your girlfriend in normalizing the experience would be helpful. Find ways of showing her that other women often have the same experience and that there are, in fact, even women who strive to ejaculate but aren't always able to. This would be a great way to help her embrace another of the many facets of her sexuality. Be sensitive, however, to the possibility that she may never be able to enjoy the experience of ejaculating and may not ever want to pursue her ability to do so. In that case, perhaps you can find another way of enjoying the phenomenon, without putting pressure on her to "perform". For instance, there are many adult videos available that display this incredible ability.
Copyright 2005 Libida.com and Dr. Kathleen Van Kirk Reviewed by: Kathleen Scarbo (VanKirk) DHS
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