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Question:
My girlfriend is experiencing various amounts of pain when we have intercourse. She is often very sore, especially with her clitoris. She said it has always been real irritated, that it hurts to touch it much at all. It's affecting our relationship, and we're both in love. She's very afraid of what it could be, and afraid to see a doctor, and I really need to know what to do because I don't want the repercussions of this to affect our relationship. She says that parts of sex used to feel good in the past with a different partner, but for awhile it has been painful (with me her only partner in the last 11 months), and that almost no part of intercourse is "pleasurable".

Answer:
by Sandra L. Caron:
(05/27/2004)
One of the major reasons for pain with intercourse is lack of lubrication. In addition, many women find direct stimulation/touching of the clitoris painful, since it is such a sensitive part of the body..... I am wondering if these may be reasons why she is having pain. I does sound like her soreness is something to discuss with a health care provider - to be sure she does not have a slight infection and to talk to someone who is trained in this area. I think you need to tlak seriously with her about this - since it is clearly effecting your relationship and your ability to be intimate.... sex is supposed to be fun, pleasurable, and without stress.... it sounds like it is currently the opposite! I think you should offer to go with her - and reassure her that you will be there to support her in whatever way is needed. Best wishes.

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