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Thanks for your earlier response. To add to the last question in your records, orgasm has been elusive for me ever since we started having sex regularly. Though I must mention that sex has been pleasurable from time to time. Even masturbation has been an activity which we indulge in together for each other.
Another reason why I cannot give my all may be lessened vaginal lubrication. We do use water based lubricant, but then may a times the spontaneity is lost. My partner has been very supportive all throughout, but we would like to improve on the present situation.
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by Konstance McCaffree: (05/28/2004)
Thanks again for writing back. It seems as if you are doing well at understanding what it is that you may need. Making those times when you do engage in sexual pleasuring, relaxing, spontaneous as can be, and definitely using lubricant. Most people I know these days, use lubricant and find all kinds of erotic ways to utilize it within the sex play.
The regularity of intercourse often creates less spontaneity and then cuts down on one or both partners ability to have orgasm. It seems that you may need to have it less frequently AND engage in interesting and erotic sex play in order to have the orgasm. This is true for many women. Different positions, different types of pleasuring other than penetrative intercourse can also help you stimulate the areas that will more likely help you orgasm. Intercourse is actually more pleasurable for the man lots of time and the woman needs something else nearer the clitoris.
If you have other questions feel free to write.Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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