You said several other things in your email that suggested that you also wouldn't be pregnant. You said you had protected sex, (did you mean unprotected?) so what did you use? Also, you said that he said he didn't finish. That may mean he didn't ejaculate much semen inside the vagina. Just because he didn't ejaculate doesn't mean that semen with sperm in it didn't go inside the vagina. When a male has an erection some precum comes down the through the penis in order to help neutralize any of the acids from his urine. That is why a latex condom needs to be worn by the male over his penis before he even touches you.

So that this doesn't happen again, and all the pleasure that you had from the intimacy together, is negated by the worry, make sure that you and your partner talk about what methods of birth control/STD prevention you both need to use. It is easy to get carried away again, as you did this time. It helps to have planned - and he can get condoms very easily for now. You need to think if you need more protection so that you don't always worry about pregnancy.

As for the hymen breaking and bleeding that really doesn't happen that way for many young women. The hymen is a thin tissue that has openings in it, so if you were stimulating each other and getting really turned on together and you were well lubricated then it would be easy for the hymen to just be pushed to the side and not break. There is often not any bleeding at all when that happens. This is not related to whether you get pregnant or not, since pregnancy is caused when the sperm in the semen swims up to meet an egg that was present. Since the last time you had intercourse it was just after your period, the egg may not have been present yet.

Reviewed by: Scott Gross M. Ed.