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I am 24 and have a one year old who recently stopped breastfeeding her one year old. My breast size has dropped to an awful (below 36 A). My husband is not complaining, but I feel awful when I'm not even enough to fill up his hands, or the least size bra! I am considering breast surgery, but don't want to discuss it with him because mostly it is for me. Can you point me in the right direction, and tell me about any related health issues/concerns, and also if it is known that some husbands are known to find the change repulsive?
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by Konstance McCaffree: (05/20/2007)
I understand that you think enlarging your breasts will make you more attractive to your husband and help you feel better about your body.
I think you will be surprised that men do not have as much concern about size as women are made to think. The media and other women seem to put far more emphasis on breast size than most men care about. What size were your breasts before you had a child and were breast feeding? Chances are they were smaller then, and he loved you just the same.
I suggest that you try to find out your husband's feelings about your sex life. This is an opportunity for an intimate conversation.
Find a quiet private time and place (if you are not used to having this conversation facing each other, try bringing it up while driving)
Ask an open question like: How do you feel about our lovemaking since I stopped breast-feeding? Or you can ask specifically: How do you feel about my breasts since I stopped breast-feeding?
I am sure that you know your husband best. Yet, you might be surprised that he is excited that your breasts are not super sensitive anymore or that they represent pleasure and play and not the way to feed your child.
What ever you will do will influence him in one way or another. It is hard to predict how and to what he will respond. Doing it without consulting him might feel like you were doing it behind his back and distance you from each other rather than bring you closer.
You also ought to consider all possible outcomes of this surgery.
There is a health risk involved in any medical procedure, especially ones that involve general anesthesia (which is used during this procedure in most cases). After the surgery, the breasts do not always feel natural.
There is the financial investment ($2500-$5000). You can use this money for something else. (Possibly for some special time together, just the two of you.)
Please remember that you are not your breasts. Your breasts are part of your body that is part of who you are.
Your body will continue to change as you go through your life. I suggest that you look for other ways to add spice and excitement to your sex life that will stay with you for life.
Editor's note: Mammograms are also more difficult to read when there are breast implants in place. P. Fawver, editor
Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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