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Hey. where to start! I guess i should start with my first time. well i was 16, and i don't even know if this counts as losing your virginity! he penetrated me, and it hurt, but we carried on. after about 5 mins he went soft. so i told him i didn't want to anymore (yes i'm lovely. he turned out to be a horrid guy anyway!) and we used a condom.
so 9 months later i get with my current boyfriend. he had a hard time entering me, but we got there. i enjoyed it and there wasn't much pain. the day after we have sex, i came on my period, but we had sex again. all protected sex. so i went home and for the rest of the week i felt like i needed to pee all the time. then i went to see him again the next weekend and we had sex again. it seemed to go away whilst i was there. i came back and it returned for the rest of the week and i had one little "accident". such an embarassing problem!
so it dyed out after a couple of weeks. now it's 9 weeks since the first time together (only having sex on weekends) and i hav just come on my period, and it's started just before i am going to see him! i keep needing to pee but yet again when i do it wasn't really worth peeing for the amount and i feel i need to go all the time. it kinda goes away when i touch myself but not completely.
i also have a small bump on my labia but i've had that before when i wasn't sexually active and it's disappeared soon enough. so not too worried about that.
just want it to stop! it's so embarassing running to the bathroom. and i dnt want to go to my doctor and spread my legs n talk about my sex life!
just want help. it's even uncomfortable just sitting here typing this! HELP
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by Megan Andelloux: (06/11/2006)
Sweetie,
We have 2 issues going on here. To be quick-
1. You most likely have a urinary tract infection, which is very normal in women and is not an S.T.D. You have to go to the doctor or it could damage your kidney's. Bad, Bad, Bad. You will most likely NOT have to spread your legs, but rather pee in a cup and hand it off to the nurse.
2. You most likely are NOT peeing when you have sex or are masturbating. You are EJACULATING, just like boys ejaculate (spurting fluid out when being turned on). How fabulous! Many women are dying to learn how they can ejaculate and some women just do it at the drop of a hat. Enjoy it, there is nothing wrong or gross about it and if you tell your partner that you can do it, many people find it REALLY SEXY.
So, call up and go to your doctor or go to a Planned Parenthood in your area. They (Planned Parenthood) deal with anything that happens below the waist and above the knees so they are a really comfy place to get things figured out. You can locate the center nearest to you by calling 1-800-230-PLAN or checking out their website by going to www.ppfa.org.
Good Luck and thanks for writing in!
Megan Andelloux
Editors note: In addition to the above, a third possibility to consider is that the feeling of having to pee can also be confused with sexual arousal. Sometimes when women or girls have not yet had a full orgasm, they can feel like they have to pee, but it is really just sexual arousal building. So, empty your bladder fully right before sexual activity starts (either partnered sex or solitary) and then just let yourself go completely. That way you will be able to relax fully into the pleasurable sensations. As you become more in touch with your body and sexual response, you will learn to distinguish these different sensations from one another. Patty Fawver, Ph.D.Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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