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Hi i was just woundering about sex terms like spooning what does it mean and if you have more terms to give me that would be great.
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by Patricia Fawver: (09/21/2007)
Hi! Thanks for writing. What a great question! In all of the thousands of questions we have received at Sexualhealth.com, I can't recall anyone ever asking this question before. So, thanks for sending it in.
Spooning refers to the position of two bodies lying down together. One person lies up against the backside of the other person so that their body is following the contours of the other person's body. Kind of like two spoons cupped together - hence the term "spooning". It is a very nice position for many activities - resting, synchronizing your breath together, feeling the other person's energy, getting warm, having sex, etc.
In therapy, I often recommend that couples have an experience which I call the 'Erotic Energy Exchange (E.E.E.). This involves lying together quietly in the spoon position, breathing together, and beginning to tune in to their own and their partner's erotic energy. If you practice this technique, eventually the sexual energy will build to a point where the partners are filled with erotic energy and the bodies are impelled to movement. Then, the body movements that occur will be flowing FROM the erotic energy rather than trying to lead it. This is the opposite of the way that most people proceed when they have sex. Usually people start by moving their bodies and expect/hope that the sexual energy will follow. I am suggesting just the reverse of that - to allow the sexual energy to build to the point where it spontaneously brings about the body's movements.
This can make for a really great sexual experience because the people are following the authentic flow of the erotic energy and it will take them wherever it goes naturally. Sometimes, there might not be much sexual energy there and you might just fall asleep or cuddle. That's ok too - just try it again at another time.
If you would like additional information on sexual positions, you can search this website by typing in the keyword "positions". There are also many books that describe various sexual positions. The most well-known of these is an ancient Indian text called The Kamasutra.
There are also many books full of interesting words and concepts related to sexuality. You might try "The Dictionary of Sexual Terms". Additionally, two authors that have published extensively on the description/definitions of sexual terms and concepts are Vern Bullough, Ph.D. and Robert Francoeur, Ph.D. Both are excellent writiers and describe sexual terms in a thorough and understandable way.
Thanks for writing in. Happy explorations to you! Patricia Fawver, Ph.D.
Reviewed by: Kathleen Scarbo (VanKirk) DHS
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