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Ever since I was about 9 yrs old I have always ejaculated by rubbing my penis against a pillow so whenever I ejaculated, my penis was always standing straight up. After many years of doing this, now whenever i feel aroused, my penis stands straight up. I thought that this might be a problem in the future when I tried to have intercourse and wasn't sure until I attempted to have intercourse for the first time this summer. When I was on top of the girl and tried to stick my penis in her vagina, it seemed that it just wouldn't go into the hole. After many minutes of trying to move my penis around so it would go in, I finally achieved slight penetration. I didn't feel like i was fully penetrating, however, and I proceeded to switch positions for better penetration. I was never able to get my penis to enter again that night. This has been my only sexual encounter and I'm scared that all my future ones will all be like this one. I now ejaculate w/ my hand so my penis is as straight forward as possible but it always wants to go upward. My question is how common a problem is this and CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME!
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by Melissa BEE: ()
Thank you for your question. I feel that your inexperience and nervousness is probably preventing you from finding solutions. Many men have slightly curved or bent penises. The key to full satisfaction for both you and your partner -- irrespective of penis or vagina size or shape -- is positioning. For example, with the woman on top, and you lying on your back or even seated, penetration and depth is under the woman's control. Any position where the woman is over the top of you can get around that problem, initially, until you are more confident to try some of the other many and varied positions. Don't be afraid to use lubricant, it would make insertion a lot easier. Also, she may have bben very nervous as well, and not very well lubricated. The first few times are usually awkward and embarrassing. Don't be afraid of having enother sexual encounter. Perhaps you could introduce some other techniques into masturbation, methods that require insertion or penetration. You can also try some lubrication when masturbating with your hands.
Best Wishes,
Melissa BEE
Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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