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Hi, this question concerns something that has bothered me for a little while. My girlfriend and I have been having sex and when I penetrate she is very tight and I end up ejaculating very soon. I would really like to be able to control and hold out longer for her benefit and mine. Please send me information/techniques/ideas on how I can extent my stamina and not ejaculate so soon.
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by Konstance McCaffree: (06/14/2004)
You need to know that this is a very common issue for many men. Because there is so much stimulation on the penis it triggers a faster ejaculation than you might want. Actually, humans have fast ejaculations anyway, because we are all mammals. All mammals in the wild ejaculate in under 3 seconds. Humans then are working against biology in order to delay ejaculation for the increased pleasure of both parties.
There are several things that you might do to help yourself delay ejaculation. If you try these for awhile and they don't seem to help you might want to ask others on the list who identify themselves as sex therapists. Some will be specialists who work with this in men alot!
Many men try using latex condoms. You didn't mention what method of contraception you may be using but since latex condoms protect against disease transmission and pregnancy, you need to know they are also helpful in slowing down fast ejaculations. They help you cut down on the sensation from your partner's vagina just enough that it slows ejaculation for many.
Additionally, you might try being on your back during intromission of penis. Have your partner be on top because then your muscles are not tense (from holding yourself up) and triggering an even faster ejaculation.
Also, use plenty of lubricant so that the penis slides in much easier and doesn't have as much friction. You can put K-Y jelly, a water-based lubricant on and it will create pleasure but be slippery and the friction may be less enough so you don't have such a quick reaction.
Other therapists may suggest other techniques like squeezing the penis at the base as you begin to feel an ejaculation coming on, so if the above don't work, ask other therapists on this list what they might suggest.Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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