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I'm a 32 old male, healthy and athletic with probably above normal sexual desire. But my most intensive orgasm comes not from having sex with an attractive partner, but from getting into certain positions myself. I am very flexible and when I slide my legs into a straddle split position, when my crotch touches the floor, I can ejaculate without physically touching my penis. Although I have had various sexual partners, that's by far the best sex I can ever have. Since my best sex isn't with a female, I take it as abnormal. I'm just wondering if there are other people like me out there. Should I do something to correct this anomaly? Or should I just keep enjoying myself?

Answer:
by Annette Owens: (06/06/2004)
Except for the fact that you can do a split, you sound very normal to me! Normal sexual behavior is not only limited to heterosexual partner sex. I would definitely encourage you to keep enjoying yourself this way. How wonderful that you can have such a great sexual experience by yourself! If you no longer wanted to have sex with your girlfriend because you preferred getting satisfied this way, I would say that you had a problem. It is important to balance sex with your partner and sex by yourself, but there is nothing wrong with satisfying yourself while in a relationship. It's like eating. Sometimes you want to go out for a nice dinner for two, while at other times you just want to grab something to eat by yourself, when you feel the hunger and it is a good and practical time for you. Try to enjoy both situations in their own way. The reason that the split position is such a sexual enhancer for you may be related to the physical impact of stretching. Many people find that they can trigger or enhance their orgasms when they tighten up their buttocks muscles during intercourse. Whether your position is related to this, I do not know. But I know for sure that many people have their preferred positions for masturbation, and there is nothing wrong with that, unless you or someone else is hurt by this. Sincerely, Annette Owens, MD PhD

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