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ok, here's the deal... me and my girl have been sexual active for about 4 months now, we're both 16, her birthday is 3 days after mine actually, but anyway, I am her 1st sexual partner, and shes like in my 20's somewhere, but she doesn't feel ANYTHING when we have sexual intercourse, she can feel anything else, when I give her oral sex, and when I use my hands, but when we have sex, she doesn't feel anything, I dont kno0w what to tell her or what to do or anything? It scares me because I think its my fault... What do I do?
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by Konstance McCaffree: ()
First of all, let me tell you (and you can tell her) that it isn't any one's fault. It is actually very common for women to not feel anything during intercourse. The nerve endings that get stimulated for women during sexual arousal are mostly on the outside, and involve the clitoris and other parts of the external vulva. The inside of the vagina doesn't have much sensation for many women unless the positioning and motion involves the outside. Intercourse is much more for men since the vagina surrounds the penis.
When you give her oral sex, or do things with the fingers you are stimulating those parts that have the nerve endings. You will then need to do what many other couples do and that is stimulate those areas that feel good to her. That may mean that any orgasm she might have will come from stimulation other than intercourse. This is what most women express wanting. You may be able to find various positions that during the thrusting motion the clitoris gets stimulated and therefore she feels more. The key to enjoying sexual arousal together is to figure out what feels arousing and good to each of you, and that means for the man it is one thing and for the woman it is another.
I hope this helps and feel free to write back for more information if you should need it. Reviewed by: Scott Gross M. Ed.
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