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I am a straight man in a very sexually active relationship. I have at times felt the desire to try oral sex with a man with a big penis. When I look at porn on line, I am attracted to larger cocks and have often thought about sucking a mans cock. I don't know how to go about this or if I should even try it.
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by Blair Glaser: (01/05/2006)
It seems that your question was written a long time ago and I apologize for the delay. These questions may already be answered for you, but just in case, here goes. They are, for better or for worse, questions that can only be answered with more questions.
First, you need to establish how badly you want to explore your desire and bring it from the realm of fantasy into reality. You need to take into account the impact that activating these fantasies may have on your life, as well as the impact that continuing not to explore them will have.
For example, you may discover you are indeed bisexual. How will that change your life, and if you sense it is already true, can you afford to continue living sexually expressing only one-half of who you are?
You may discover that performing oral sex on a man with a big penis is much better in fantasy than in reality, and that could be disappointing and at the very worst, evoke some shame.
Are you truly happy in your relationship? Is your partner open to bisexuality? If so, or if you think sharing your homosexual fantasies with her would bring you closer, then you have some interesting options.
You may want to engage in a threesome with her and another man, including her in a journey which might, if you lay the ground rules correctly, bring your sex life as a couple to a deeper level. It is a risky endeavor, but again, if you are good communicators, it could be a very bold and bonding experience that opens many doors for the both of you.
If this is something you need to do alone, then I am sure with a little creative exploration, you can figure out how to safely meet someone healthy, who is ready and willing to allow you to perform oral sex on him. This person may even already be in your social network.
Best to you and have fun in your sexploration!Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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