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After having oral sex with my girlfriend I breakout with a couple of cold sores round my mouth. Currently, she has a breakout of cold sores around her mouth approximately 12 days a mouth. I asked her if she had herpes, but her reply was that she had to much acid in her juices. Please help out!
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by Megan Andelloux: (01/15/2006)
Sorry to say this, but it READS like she has herpes and either doesn't want to admit it or doesn't know she has it. Herpes has such stigma around it. People call them cold sores, fever blisters, too much acid, eating foods that are too spicy, but herpes is herpes and it is HIGHLY contagious and most people will have it by the age of 65.
This is what you should know if it is indeed herpes (i can't see you nor am I a medical doctor, so this is not a medical diagnosis, but a sexuality educator's guestimate) Herpes is highly contagious. It is most contagious 2 weeks to several days before the sores actually appear, so no evidence that you are getting an outbreak, but highly likely time for you to pass it onto another person. Herpes can be oral or genital. If you go down on someone (perform oral sex) and have an outbreak or are about to have an outbreak you will most likely give them genital herpes.
Herpes is a lifelong disease and people get outbreaks when your immune system is compromised, you're stressed or sick. You can take a medication called VALTREX to reduce outbreaks, you just need a perscription. Outbreaks occur most often during the first year of exposure. I would say you would be pretty prone to outbreaks due to your history, so I would suggest talking to your doctor about the suppression medication VALTREX or other medications for treatment.
So, if you are going to perform oral sex on someone, use a condom or place a thin piece of saran wrap, yes saran wrap, over the vulva before you lick or suck away, otherwise you could pass it onto them. Tell your sexual partners that you have oral herpes (oral doesn't mean you have genital, but you can cause it to become genital through oral contact) so they can make informed decisions.
Just think of it this way, you caught it early and the majority of people will have it anyway, so you aren't unlucky, just average.
Good luck and thanks for writing in!
Megan AndellouxReviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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