Question:
I am in a new relationship. Although, we have enjoyed sex, we have had extensive conversations about it. My primary approach is that she is comfortable and that I understand her as to not expect the impossible (if there is such a thing). She tells me that she has enjoyed anal and that there are times she has difficult time "going" because of an occasional hemmorhoid.
One; can I do damage with frequent anal sex and Two; can hemmorhoids originate from frequent anal sex?
She, also, told me that she was frowned upon because that is something she likes. I assured her that I am not in judgement even with no experience and that what we do is between us. Thank you for your time.
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Answer:
by Jenni Skyler: (12/09/2009)
Anal sex does not cause hemorrhoids, but hemorrhoids can definitely make anal sex more painful. Hemorrhoids are a very common constipation issue, especially in the United States. Many Americans struggle with bowel movements due to low-fiber, high fat diets, which can cause harder stool. Harder stool places more pressure on the lower rectum creating swelling and inflammation in the veins around the anus and lower rectum. Thus, holding off on anal sex during her occasional hemorrhoid is a smart idea, but don’t worry about frequent anal sex exacerbating her hemorrhoids. Keep in mind that because there are numerous nerve endings surrounding and inside the anus, this activity can be enormously pleasurable for many people, men and women alike. Perhaps a daily prevention practice can help ameliorate the hemorrhoids if these tend to creep up more frequently than you like. Again, a high-fiber diet is essential—fruits, veggies, whole grains, and lots of water for hydration and flow. Exercising has been shown to help, as well as soaking in a warm bath, applying cold compresses to reduce swelling, and using over-the-counter creams and ointments with witch-hazel and/or hydrocortisone. For more suggestions on hemorrhoid prevention and relief, check out Hemorrhoids: Reducing the Pain and Discomfort, from the American Academy of Family Physicians.
Last but not least, your new partner is a lucky woman to have someone like you who not only reserves judgment, but is also comfortable having extensive conversations. Open communication regarding sexual preferences and activities can only enhance your sex life. And as long as you practice safe sex to which you both consent, the world of pleasure is vast. If you want more ideas and info on sex play and anal health, read up on Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin, or The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex For Women by Tristan Taormino. Have fun exploring!
Reviewed by: Kathleen Scarbo (VanKirk) MA, DHS, CYT
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