Question:
I have a rather embarrassing problem. I'm a gay man who enjoys receiving anal penetration. However, I always seem to be 'occupied' when it comes time to go at it. My body seems to store waste in my rectum most of the time, when I'm sure most people do not have this issue.
I am able to regularly use the restroom (at least once a day) but it seems my body tries to store waste in my rectum as quickly as possible, not triggering a BM but still making anal penetration a pain for me and my partner.
I've even tried a high fiber diet but that didn't help.
Any help you could provide would be most appreciated! Thanks.
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Answer:
by Patricia Fawver: (11/06/2008)
Hello-thanks for writing in with your question. It is common for people to need to feel comfortable with their body before they feel like having sex. This includes all types of physical considerations such as pain, tiredness, emotional state, as well as whether or not you've recently had a bowel movement. Since you are able to have a bowl movement daily, why don't you just try having sex after you've gone to the bathroom. That is when most people feel more comfortable engaging in any type of penetrative sex anyway.
Remember, regardless of what type of physical situations or ailments we are dealing with, there are ways to work around it and still be able to find enjoyment in our sexuality. It is not the body or its' timing, rhythms, functions that are at fault, it is the way that we respond to our body's needs that usually causes us the problem. So, work with what you've got. Hopefully, you are able to discuss all of this with your partner. People usually respond better when they know why you are reacting the way that you are. So, consider having a talk with him and explain what's going on with you and your body. If you have a good relationship and a caring partner, these should just be technical timing details that can be worked out. Good luck! Reviewed by: Kathleen Scarbo (VanKirk) MA, DHS, CYT
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