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hi, im 28 years old, virgin and im having this problem when im having sexual intercourse with my gf and before her with some other girls. the thing i can get her all excited but i cant cum not even with penetration or hand jobs,but the strange thing is i had wet dreams and i can cum when i masturbate. other thing i notice is that my penis gets hard while in penetration and then gets soft/numb after a few seconds, i notice also difficulty in concentrate on sex, of focusing on the pleasure my gf is giving me.
can you help me?
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by Megan Andelloux: (11/28/2005)
Hmmm...I'm thinking of a couple things. You said that you are a virgin but then you said you've lost your erection during penetration? Does that mean you haven't ejaculated so you still consider yourself a virgin?
You could be experiencing a physicology problem and what leads me to that path is the fact that you said you get "numb" after being in your partner for a couple minutes. That "numb" thing needs to be checked out by a doctor.
As for not coming when you are with someone else, but you can come by yourself, well that leads me to think that you are uncomfortable being intimate with another person watching you. It can be very nerveracking to have an orgasm in front of another person, you loose all control of your face and muscle reactions, you make wierd noises and they may just stare at you. All of those concerns/worries can cause impotence in men. So can not being attracted to your partner. But that doesn't sound like it's the case.
Have you tried masturbating in front of her? Maybe that would work, you could pleasure yourself in front of her and it would show her how you like to be touched. It will most likely be very exciting for her to watch you get off!
Another thing that could be happening is if you are taking any pills. Anti-hypertensives can cause impotence problems BIG TIME. Are you taking any of those? Bring this up to the doctor, they can always find you another medication that will not cause impotence, but you need to tell them what is happening. Don't worry, they've heard it all before and it's not going to shock them. You deserve the best sex life you can get, so hop to it and get that checked out!
So, go to the doctor. Make sure you are ok.
Good luck and thanks for writing in! Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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