I think what you are asking is when you have intercourse with your wife, you have an ejaculation (inject semen into her body) in about 1 1/2 minutes the first time. When you have intercourse several times, the other times it happens around 3 or 4 minutes.

What you are describing is actually very normal for men. Men get aroused very quickly, and when very aroused will ejaculate quickly especially the first time in a series of times. The second time that you get aroused within a few minutes, you will find that you can ejaculate several minutes later.

If you want to have the first ejaculation take a little longer, you could try several things. ONe, as you get close to ejaculation (you will need to concentrate on when that is, so that you can recognize when your body is getting close to the time you will have an orgasm) you may need to slow down the action and maybe even stop moving for a few seconds. You could also squeeze, or have your partner squeeze the penis at either the tip or the base (you have to find what works best for you) for a few seconds to slow down the feeling.

Sometimes men will masturbate to orgasm before they have intercourse with their wives, so that they can last longer. You might then be able to have 3-4 minutes of intercourse before you ejaculate.

Also, remember it will take your wife longer than you to get aroused. The penis in the vagina is not likely to arouse her the same way it does you. You may want to stimulate her by touching on the outside where her clitoris is. That will give her pleasure and you won't need to worry about how fast you may ejaculate. If she is receiving pleasure from your touching, and you can have intercourse several times, then you will be gaining pleasure each time you touch each other.

Please feel free to write again if I haven't answered your question.

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