Answer:
by Patricia Fawver: (09/09/2009)
Hello. Thanks for writing in with your question. Yes, there are medications you could take that would slow down your orgasm and ejaculation. However, I would suggest that you consider learning to work WITH your body and your timing, rather than trying to medicate it.
Everyone's sexual response timing is different and each person's timing is different at different times. It's not your body, or its' timing thats at fault. It's the attitude toward the body and its' timing that needs adjusting.
Often guys who come very quickly can have two orgasms within one experience. You can have one climax early on in the experience and then keep on having sex (of some sort) and then you will probably get aroused again and may even be able to come a second time.
I suggest that you have a straight up conversation with your girlfriend and explain all this to her and ask her if she's willing to explore/experiment with you and see just how much fun you can have when you let go of your expectations of the body and just focus on pleasure.
There are also exercises for masturbation and for partnered sex that can help you learn more about your sexual response and how to slow it down. They are called the stop start technique and the squeeze technique. I prefer the stop start technique because that can more easily be incorporated into sex with a partner.
So, read up on these techniques. Talk with your girlfriend. And, get started learning how to work with your body to have more fun and pleasure. Take care, Patricia Fawver, Ph.D. Reviewed by: Kathleen Scarbo (VanKirk) MA, DHS, CYT
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