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This is really a general question: Isn't rapid ejaculation somewhat overrated, much like a 10" penis and other "urban legends?" It seems to me from my limited observation that ejaculation throughout the animal kingdom occurs pretty rapidly. I'm certainly not an expert, but I've seen dogs, cats, lions, horses and other mammals mate and never does ejaculation take more than a couple of minutes. Another point of reference is also that I have a problem with my testosterone level: my body apparently no longer produces any and I have to take testosterone artificially. It seems to me that sometimes when my testosterone is really low, it takes me much longer to ejaculate and there doesn't appear to be any benefit in this situation for my wife - she merely gets really tired in her legs. On the other hand, sometimes when my level is higher it seems like I ejaculate much faster and then feel bad that I haven't been able to last longer. Finally, I recently read a letter in an advice column about a younger women who's boyfriend would actually lose his erection during sex and they would have to "uncouple" and she would have to masturbate him to get his erection back up. She claimed that it took him a half an hour to ejaculate and despite of what you woould think, this was not fun at all for her. All of this makes believe that sex isn't really supposed to take a whole lot of time.
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by Robert Birch: (06/06/2004)
I'm not sure if this is a questions or a statement... or perhaps six questions. However, this posting does raise a number of important issues: First is the pressure on men to last long and to be able to ejaculate on command. I happen to agree with you... rapid ejaculation is the rule in nature and most men, if they thrust steadly, will ejaculate quicker than they might wish. Men can, however, learn techniques for lasting longer. Lasting too long (or the inability to ejaculate at all) can become troublesome for both the man and his partner.
The second issues that arises out of your questions is (and I'll paraphrase) "When is a sexual problem a sexual problem?" The answer is, if a person or their partner consider it a problem and experience psychological distress, it is a problem. If both are happy with how things are going (or not going), there is no problem. Individuals and couples decide... not the sexual experts and national surveys.
Finally there is the issue of sex and aging and the use of testosterone supplements and Viagra. When a couple is interested in continuing to share their physical intimacy, there may well be medical help. The decision to do something to keep things going is an individual decision, made in consultation with a partner and a physician.Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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