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Question:
I have question for you and I'm an abashed for this
question. I have new girlfriend and I didn't make sex with
anyone before I think my first intercourse will be after few
days or weeks with my new girlfriend, however, I seen
many of sex video and too much of sex picture, The
question is! Is the intercourse in these movies real? In
other words, The man in the movie ejaculates outside her
vagina always.
Please help What I have to do in my first intercourse and I
want keep my girlfriend with me?
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Answer:
by Yvonne Fulbright: (05/14/2004)
Yes, the intercourse you see in sex videos and pictures
(pornography) is real. Those people are really having sex.
Yet, the type of sex you describe - that of the man
ejculating outside of the woman's vagina - is not the only
way to have sex.
When a couple has intercourse (penis inside the vagina)
and a man pulls out his penis to ejaculate, it is called the
withdrawl method. For some reason, porn videos are really
into showing viewers a man ejaculating, and thus often
have their actors practice the withdrawl method. This
method is also practiced by some couples who choose not
to use contraception, since they think that it is an
effective way to avoid pregnancy (because the sperm isn't
deposited into the vagina). Since many couples know that
the withdrawl method is not an effective way to avoid
pregnancy, or the spread of STDs, they do not practice it,
opting to use condoms and practice safer sex.
In having sex for the first time, looking to pornography is
one way to figure out what to do and how to do it. Yet
you may want to get ahold of materials that are more
educational and informative in learning how to have sex
for the first time. Your local bookstore is sure to have a
couple of books that will explain how to have sex,
stimulate your partner during foreplay, different positions,
etc...
Communication with your partner is key to making your
first time special and enjoyable. If she has had sex before,
she may be able to take the lead, showing you how she
enjoys having sex. If she is still a virgin, you can still find
out from her how she envisions sex and what she would
like to try. Chances are she'll be like most women and will
not want to practice the withdrawl method since this type
of sex often leaves the woman unfulfilled and frustrated
because intercourse ends so abruptly. The two of you
should also talk about contraception in order to avoid
unwanted pregnancy and STD's.
If anything, do not measure your performance or
expectations against the porn videos you see. First time
sex for most people, while it can be pleasurable, is usually
quick - unlike those porn stars who are all about
endurance. Just relax and do what feels natural to you,
and I'm sure that you and your girlfriend will have a
wonderful, meaningful sexual experience.
Yvonne K. Fulbright, MS.Ed.Reviewed by: Kathleen VanKirk DHS
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