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I am a 30 year old who was born with a undecended right testicle & I had a hernia when I was 9 years old & got it removed.Can this issue affect the overall flacid & erect state of my penis? I'm going to see a uerologist tomorrow.If I get my right testicle dropped down all the way, will that add more lenght or girth to my penis?Furthermore can this problem affect the overall response with my penis getting an erection with different partners over the years?There are so many times in my life that I've had to turn down sexual activity because for one reason or another I don't get arroused enough.It's extremely frustrating & I get very depressed about it.Alot of times I'll be acting in foreplay with any particular partner & I don't know if my mind starts drifting off or whatever.I know though for a fact that I have to feel very comfortable with the female that I'm with at the time in order for me to be able to get an erection.I think I think like a female.I've been in 3 long term relationships my whole life & I could achieve an erection with the blink of an eye (it was awesome).I just don't think I was ever able to sleep around like some of the other guy friends I know.Please help me!!!!Please
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Answer:
by Scott Gross: (02/01/2006)
Hi and thanks for your question. The major complication of an undescended testicle is lowered sperm production which can lead to infertility or the inability to father a child. What this means is that your undescended testicle in no way affects the size of your penis or your ability to get or maintain an erection. It sounds to me like your erection difficulties may be caused by some unconscious feelings you have about casual relationships. Your sexual experiences in long term relationships have been very positive and rewarding, while your sexual experiences in casual relationships have been less so. These experiences are really feeding into each other. In other words, you may have erection problems with casual partners because in the back of your mind you are expecting that you will have erection problems.
I would suggest that you take your time with new partners, tell them that you need more time and intimacy to get aroused, and to enjoy the other aspects of sex like touching, kissing, and caressing. By slowing things down and enjoying the moment, you may find that your erection comes back. Talking to your urologist is a great first step, but then you should also talk to a therapist about your relationship experiences and hear what they have to say about your erection difficulties.
I wish you the best of luck.
Take care,
M. Scott Gross
Editors note: With the genital and reproductive variations, the hernia, and the wondering if you experience sex more like a woman, it is also possible that you may have experienced some transgendered feelings. If you have, I would suggest you consider consulting a gender therapist. Two good internet resources to begin exploring these issues are: transsexualwomensresources.com and the Harry Benjamin International Gender Dysphoria Association. Take care, Patty Fawver Ph.D.Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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