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i just want to how to know on the first night of my wedding that my wife is a virgin
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by Georgan Gregg: ()
There’s no way to be sure. It’s a myth that a hymen proves virginity. Some attach great importance to the presence or absence of a hymen because a female virgin theoretically will have an intact hymen if she has not had penetrative vaginal intercourse. The problem is that if a woman is born with a small or nonexistent hymen, she might appear to not be a virgin. A normally active life often causes the hymen to break or tear. On the other hand, the hymen usually has holes & can be elastic enough to stretch to have room for sexual intercourse. If the hymen is broken at first intercourse there is usually a small amount of bleeding & pain, but some women don't experience any pain or bleeding at all.
Since there’s no way to be certain that your new wife is virginal perhaps you can release this concern & look to the quality of your relationship. Depending upon your beliefs, marriage can provide a financial arrangement, a socially sanctioned family, companionship, sexual release &/or a wonderful friend & ally. If you think you’ve found the right person to live your dream of marriage & partnership, I hope you won’t let a potential hymen stand in the way. One fitting issue is to focus on having an on-going warm & loving discussion of sexuality with your fiancée to learn her attitudes, fears & hopes.
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Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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