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Question:
I'm a guy 18 yrs old and a virgin,and in about a yr and a half i'm getting married to my girlfriend or fiance'. But my g/f made a bad mistake one time and only once so she's not a virgin, so on our wedding night Is it gonna hurt her i mean even though her hymen is broken is it still gonna hurt her and being it will be my first time what do i need to do to make sure it doesnt hurt her and make it enjoyable

Answer:
by Erin McKay:
(02/03/2006)
Congratualations on your engagment!!! Yes, it is possible that the next time your fiancé has intercourse that it may hurt a little. To reduce this, try to have lots of foreplay (20 minutes at least). This may include cuddling, kissing, caressing, petting, fingering and oral sex. When you are ready to have intercourse make sure she is wet enough as women can dry up very quickly, especially if she is nervous. It may help to use lubrication such as K.Y. jelly that can be bought at the pharmacy. And remember to go slowly and be very gentle the first time. Something else to consider is for both of you to get tested for sexually transmitted infections if either of you have had previous partners. You may also want to discuss the use of contraceptives especially if you do not want to get pregnant right away. Best wishes.

Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology

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