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Question:
My problem is that I regularly watch porn and maturbate while watching it and spend hours on the internet and inspite i don't want to do so but i can't control it please suggest me some way i can get rid of it. I masturbate almost every other day like on the dates for eg 3rd and then on 5 and then again on 6th or 7th day which lowers my sex desire too much but i have become addicted to sex.

Answer:
by Konstance McCaffree:
(06/06/2004)
Let me start by saying I would love to answer this question for you though I am not an expert in sexual addiction, and do not know how to help people who feel addicted to sex. I am not convinced though that you are addicted.

There seems to be something in your story though that would tell me that you are not really addicted. If you masturbate (whether to pornography or any other images) even every other day, that is very normal. Even if you masturbated every day, or several times a day that doesn't mean that you are addicted, and many people masturbate quite often.

You may be mistaking pleasure and desire for that pleasure as addiction. Wanting to have the pleasure, and seeking sources that help you create that pleasure is not necessarily addiction.

You also mentioned that if you masturbate daily that your sex desire is lowered too much. What does that mean? You don't want intercourse with a partner? Would you prefer to masturbate only and not want partner sharing of sex?

Wanting to alter your patterns of sex desire and arousal may not be addiction. It just means that you may be feeling guilty about thinking about sex so much, and feel that you shouldn't be spending so much time on it.

I don't know if anything I have said helps you,but I would be glad to answer more questions if you continue to write me. I will also try to see if someone else on the site works on addiction, if you believe you still want to explore that.

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