A good number of women take some time and experimentation to experience the first orgasm with a partner. Even those who have climaxed when they were by themselves might sometimes find reaching orgasm with a partner difficult. Things get worse when one gets anxious about not being able to orgasm, and tries “desperately” to get one. The anxiety itself turns into an enemy interfering with the ability to receive and focus on sexual responses. You have mentioned in the form that you are taking prescription drugs for depression. The drug you are taking is known to delay or inhibit the orgasmic response. This itself could be a major cause of your problem. Many other factors like insecure surroundings, distracting thoughts, fear of pregnancy, of being detected, and the like, if existing, can add to the problem. Unless you participate in sexual activity in a very congenial atmosphere, relax and focus on the pleasurable sensations you get during the interplay, you may not be bale to reach the high level of arousal need to reach orgasm.

This is where a therapist’s role comes into picture. He/she would not only help you understand the basics involved in your difficulty, but would also address your anxieties, alter the medications you are taking, help you focus on your sexual responses, reduce anxiety, build high levels of arousal, and finally reach orgasm. The therapist would probably give you a few homework assignments in this direction. All this would require a few visits to the therapist, and if your boyfriend agrees to accompany you and cooperate, the results would be better and faster.

Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team