Anyways, if i recall correctly, it was the following:

1. if we were both just wearing our underwears (if he had not been wearing shorts), will making out (intense or not) be risky?

2. the making out i describe in my last email may have involve our gentials rubbing eachother (with his shorts and my undies on). was that dangerous too?

3. I have read in some other what i think were reliable websites that sperm can soak thru clothes and cotton underwear and that it is possible to get pregnant if you are making out or even doing it with clothes on. is this true or do they have bad information (ex. teenwire.com?)?

thank you so much once again. I am so glad there is someone out there to help girl like me out. Much thanks.

If you and your partner are rubbing genitals together and he should ejaculate into his underwear, even though it will get moist, as long as you have underwear on as well, sperm just can't penetrate through. It is really too fragile and doesn't have the ability to move well through clothing.

What you do need to be careful of, which is what teenwire was probably being cautious about, is that semen from the ejaculation can get outside of the underwear and get on the skin. If there becomes skin to skin contact of the semen which is keeping the sperm alive, then there is a very small (and I mean very small) chance that sperm could find enough moisture to keep moving. It doesn't have the same motivation that it would have if placed in the vagina, but there have been suggestions that it may create a pregnancy. Lots of people do the kind of sex play you describe though and pregnancy isn't going to happen. Spreading of disease could though.

You didn't ever mention if your partner has had previous partners, and you do need to be careful of disease germs which harbor in semen AND on the skin/hair of the testicles, penis, and vulva of the girl.

Hope that is all helpful. Feel free to ask more questions. I try to look every two days while on vacation.

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