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hello maddam or sir i am 14 and have been masterbating for three years well i just started to notice bumps on my foreskin and it worried me now i heard that bumps on the shaft of your penis are normal because hair grows in but didnt know about this now i know you shouldnt be ahamed of masterbating but thats a little hard sometimes when your worried that you may have a problem i havnt had sex yet and i know it cant be an std but think it might be because torn blood vessels and that is just a guess i worry alot that i may not be able to have a good relationship when im older because of this and not to mention penis size well you experts always say are penises are normal size and im not sure what my size is but its about the size of a pen just 2 centimeters smaller anyways i wanted you to be put in a situation like this by experiencing the dream that has haunted me for months so doctor get ready to see how it would go for most teens
me: so tammy did you like the movie
tammy: yah it was great
me: glad you enjoyed it say how about you come
over to my place to relax then i could take you home
tammy:sure lets do that
finally we get home and at this point every teen knows what is going to happen but doesnt really know what to expect
me: wow tammy your so beutiful i know you might not say this back but heck i have to say it tammy i luv you
tammy:oh i luv you too
screeeeeeeeeeeeeeech!!!!
this is where we hit the big road block
tammy and i are about to have the moment when she says oh my god you call that a d*** my dogs D*** is bigger than that oh and what are those bumps im out of here!!!
i never want you to ever try to make me do it with you ever again because its not happening wait till the girls at school here about this
3 days later
walking in the hall when i hear something in the janitors closet i open it and there is tammy doing it with the one kid i hate the most michael oh doctor you says these words of reashurince
when in reality we still are going to fall on our faces oh well i guess thats what to excpect but i know that most girls excpect more but our only going to be able to fantisize because hey lets just face it bigger is better and if you dont got a monster truck a mini cooper aint gonna do it i have a bunch of storys from friends who have had this happen to them well except for the janitor closet part lol
but the size and dont get me wrong tammy is a nice girl not the slutty type that is all about doing it but just wants someone to be friends with and have fun but you know these days girls are being brain washed to think of i am just saying that i have a problem and i need help so the question is are you going to help me.
* Note: Names were changed to preserve privacy. Patty Fawver, Editor
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Answer:
by Blair Glaser: (01/16/2006)
Thanks for your letter and for sharing the "dream sequence." That was bold.
As far as I know, there are several types of bumps on the penis that are completely normal. You can get them checked out to find out what yours are and if they should be treated or removed in any way.
As far as your rejection fantasy, here's the secret: just about everyone has them. Believe me when I say that "Tammy" has a few of her own, and you are not alone in your insecurity about sex and your body. Just about everyone has a fear that they will be flat out rejected by a member of the opposite sex during the act because they are not perfect. Men with small penises, bumps on their penises, men who feel their penises are too large (yes, it goes the other way, too!), women with small breasts, large breasts or bumps or hair on their breasts, women who feel their thighs (or other body part)are too fat, or that they have too much vaginal discharge. The list of people's insecurities, which stem from their being different from what is portrayed in pictures, films and magazines, goes on and on.
I am not saying this to minimize your insecurities, but sometimes knowing that you are not alone and everyone has them helps you laugh at them a little bit.
Now, if "Tammy" is really going to reject you so harshly in the intimate act of foreplay or love making, is she really the quality of gal you want to be with? Would you treat a woman the same way? Before you get intimate with someone, give yourself enough time to see if they are trustworthy. You deserve someone who really cares about you, and is not interested in humiliating you because she is dissapointed in your penis size.
Good luck and have fun, and remember you are not alone.
*Editors note: Names were changed to protect privacy. Patty Fawver, EditorReviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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