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by Georgan Gregg: ()
I like your attitude! From what you’ve shared, your wife is not making time for intimacy with you a priority. For many couples, it’s easy to drift into a rut after children are born. Some find having a “date night” is just the ticket to enjoying one another in a romantic & sexually environment. On the other hand, your wife may really not understand just how important this is to your happiness & the continuing success of your marriage. Sometimes it takes a wake-up call to realize what’s important in life.
I recommend you to pick up a copy of Bernie Zilbergeld’s book “The NEW MALE Sexuality.“ Specific help for communicating with your wife is detailed there. By the way, this is a great book for women to read, too. Here is why I think you’ll find this book so helpful:
1· Talking & listening in a way that is a true reflection of what’s important in our relationships isn’t always easy, but Bernie breaks it down very concretely.
2· His rules of effective listening are listed with exercises to increase your skills in both. Understanding & support are where it all begins & his suggestions really get you started.
3· Expressing yourself constructively can be truly challenging when it comes to emotions & sexuality, but Bernie offers great ideas & even tools for dealing with conflict.
If you try your best but still feel your wife isn’t hearing, perhaps it’s time to seek professional help. After all, your marriage will ultimately be at stake. You can find a nearby certified counselor or therapist by going to American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT) website.
Thanks for contacting sexualhealth.com to help you with this important issue! Reviewed by: Scott Gross M. Ed.
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