It never really was a problem, only lately I knew it was an issue when I started to envision my ex-lover's mom while I masturbated, and since then, I can't keep from thinking unfit things whenever them mother is present...

Additionally, just a short while ago I had to ride the streetcar a few stops past my own to wait for an unwanted erection to subside as a result of a woman in her mid 40's being pressed up against me in the crammed streetcar... ...Embarrasing...

Worst of all, I had to leave the room to masturbate when a friend's mom walked by us in her bath robe on the way from her bathroom to her bedroom....

I feel more attraction to mature women than girls my age now... what do I do?

I can see from your information that you are nearly 30 years old, so obviously this is all between consenting adults. There is really nothing to worry about. To the contrary, it is good that you are getting to know yourself and learn about the different facets of your own erotic template. Many of the problems that I see in my therapy practice involve situations where people have not done that. They either don't know about their own erotic templates or they are not respecting them in terms of their partner choice. So, it is a good thing for you to learn about yourself and be respectful of that.

Once you come to understand and accept yourself, you will be better equipped to make partner choices that are appropriate to you. Good luck and have fun.

Reviewed by: Kathleen VanKirk DHS