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True Connoisseur-ship
I am a male C5 quad with limited post-injury experience who loves to satisfy a woman orally. Having said that, I am curious
about whether to stick to oral stimulation alone or incorporate a dildo for penetration. Both at the same or trading off?
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by Mitchell Tepper: (05/16/2004)
True Connoisseur-ship
Yes, Yes, Yes and Yes. Yes, stick to oral stimulation alone if that's all your partner wants. Yes, incorporate a dildo, your nose,
anything that's not sharp if your partner desires penetration. Yes, both at the same time and yes, trade off. There are no hard
and fast rules here. Some women report a qualitative difference between a "vulval" orgasm triggered primarily by stimulation
of the clitoris and a "uterine" orgasm triggered by vaginal stimulation. The literature also describes "blended" orgasms that
include both vulval and uterine contractions. A blended orgasm may result from simultaneously stimulating the front wall of
the vagina a couple of inches up--the location of the Grafenberg or G spot--and the clitoris. Your partner knows best what
feels good to her. With practice, she can learn to communicate her preferences verbally or through body language.
If you want to become a true connoisseur of cunnilingus, I recommend reading The Clitoral Kiss: A Fun Guide to Oral Sex, by
Kenneth Ray Stubbs; and Oral Caress: The Loving Guide to Exciting a Woman, by Robert W. Birch. For more education about
female sexual response and the Grafenberg spot, refer to The G Spot, by Alice Kahn, Beverly Whipple and John Perry.
Reading these resources with your lover opens communication and can be a powerful aphrodisiac.
Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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